Is There a Shortage of Spiritual Fathers?



While speaking with several other young pastors recently regarding marriage and ministry, We stumbled upon a subject that I believe has not received enough recognition in the local church. Unless you have been living under a rock for the last few years then you would know the great influx of young preachers and pastors that are sprouting up. Now a days its not uncommon to see a 26 or 27 year old pastor of a church. Years ago that just wasn’t the norm. I believe its a wonderful thing that so many “younger people” that are accepting the call to step into leadership on a pastoral level. These young preachers are undoubtedly gifted and unashamedly zealous. This is a great thing!


On the flip side as I begin to speak further with this group of young preachers and pastors, I noticed a reoccurring theme. That theme was that neither of the individuals involved in the discussion had someone that they considered to be their spiritual father. Years ago to not have a spiritual father would almost be something punishable by stoning. Relax its just a joke. However whats not funny is that this theme is not exclusive to these individuals.


The body of Christ is seeing a increase of churches, an increase of membership an increase of participation but a decrease in spiritual fathers. Which begs the question, Is there a shortage of spiritual fathers, or a shortage of submissive sons?


When asked why it is that there seems to be a shortage of spiritual fathers, the answers varied. Some stated that the pastor that they were under attempted to hold hem hostage and didn’t want to see them launch out into their own ministry. Some said that they don’t desire to have a ministry that is in the same vein of the church or denomination that they came out of. Some said that they don’t trust the integrity and lifestyle of many of the bishops/pastors, this mistrust is partly due to past church hurt and things seen while serving under that former pastor.


At the end of the day I don’t know that we will ever be able to pinpoint exactly while it is that we have an influx of young preachers but a shortage of spiritual fathers.


Could it be that the young preachers of today are rambunctious and unwilling to be submissive?


Is this new wave of fatherless pastors and preachers healthy?


Is  not having a spiritual father/mother a bad thing?


Is there a shortage of spiritual fathers or a shortage of submissive sons?


What are your thoughts?


Excuse me, Can you Please Stop Interrupting Your Success?

Joey Foster:

Leaders, must read!!

Originally posted on Honest Leadership™:

Business Man Talking to Himself The one thing I find many of my clients and colleagues have in common is excuses. I often hear of goals, life objectives and hopeful achievements during our conversations and when I pose the question inquiring about the action behind the goal, I receive a slew of reasons why they haven’t achieved them.

I’ve found that generally it’s not other people getting in the way of our success, its us!

We limit our opportunities with poor excuses of why we didn’t seize them. Instead of going the extra mile to accomplish something, we delay and procrastinate. We allow unimportant things to take our attention away from our mission and goals. We overlook, we compromise and we choose to find other reasons to describe our clear lack of motivation. I know this because I too have been subjected to what I’ve labeled as “self-interference”. I define self-interference as the…

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Good Leadership is not About Being Right

Originally posted on Honest Leadership™:

Im-Right “Being right means nothing unless you’re the one that holds the cards.” That is what a great boss once told me. He learned that after being fired from a prestigious law firm after arguing with his boss over who was right. His boss said to him “You know what, your right – and you’re fired!” I later discovered that we never really hold all the cards. Even when we own our own companies, we are still at the mercy of our loyal customers our brand and those we hope to gain valuable relationships with in the future. Good leadership is not about being right, it’s about doing the right things.

A good leader understands and value in making mistakes. Being wrong is a humbling experience that teaches us what not to do the next time. Leadership doesn’t require you to know everything, rather it requires you know how to find the…

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America we have a problem. No………….. An epidemic of mass proportions on our hands. The death toll is literally rising every minute of everyday.

People are dying right in front of our very eyes and we aren’t doing anything to stop it.Congress congratulates it and the Senate supports it. However CEO’s disdain it and Entrepreneurs shun it.

Everyday there are nearly 40 million workings Americans that wake up at ungodly hours of the morning, risking their life driving while half asleep on dangerous highways, all to make it to their “Coffin” also known as their “Cubicle”. I wont even go into the startling resemblances that Cubicles and Jail cells have or even worst think about cubicles and cemeteries. OOOooooo(insert cheesy 1980’s scary music effect) Scary isn’t it?

Let’s look at this, We sit in a cubicle and stare at a computer for 8 to 9 hours, while dreaming about possibly doing something that we would actually at least need a pulse to do, go home, go to sleep and do it all over again. We’re not able to go anywhere, with the exception of that one hour that the “warden” I mean the “company” allows us to. Sounds like recess huh, or a reward for good behavior? You hardly want to get to know the person beside you because well, they’re just as miserable as you are. Every conversation almost sounds like “Hey, what are you in for?”  Meanwhile your God given purpose is being smothered by piles of meaningless paperwork and the smell of burnt coffee from the break room. Listen to me, “THAT CUBICLE IS INCARCERATING YOUR PURPOSE AND KILLING YOUR DREAM“.

Do you believe that that’s what you were created to do?

Now I understand that we all have responsibilities and above all we should satisfy those. However the question I pose is, If all you’re living to do is fulfill responsibilities, are you simply surviving or are you thriving“. Those who only survive dread waking up every morning because they know that their day isn’t filled with anything purposeful. Those who thrive, wake up with a sense of purpose and passion, ready to take on the world.

The “kryptonite” to you thriving is “stagnation”.


What do cubicle represent? A place where you SIT, STAY and STARE all day long.  Sitting in one place, Staying there all day and Staring at a screen. Now if those three skills were the missing links to wealth, health and wholeness then there would be nearly 40 million more people successful and thriving individuals. I want to suggest to you that those are antithetical to all things that are PURPOSE.

So now I cry out to you like a friend who sees a wild animal behind you…..RUNNNNNNNNN!!!!! THAT CUBICLE IS GOING TO KILL YOU!!!!

Don’t let it!

I know you have a passion.Pursue it.

I know you have a Dream. Don’t detour from it.

You don’t have to simply survive, you can THRIVE!


What are some other things that we don’t realize that are hindering us from pursuing purpose?

The Life Behind the “LIKES”


Since the Boom of Social media in the early 2000’s, many have speculated that the face to face interaction between individuals have dwindled. Many sociologists have stated that human beings are less social than we were, say 30 years ago. In a time where families are text messaging each other while in the same house and Children and adults alike have their faces glued to the smart phone or tablet. One thing we for sure no one can seem to not engage in the various social media outlets. Whether it’s Facebook, Social cam, twitter etc. It seems that there is now more than ever an assertive effort to connect and communicate with each other. So I have respectfully disagree with some who state that this generation is lack the communicational skills. It’s not that we lack the skills to communicate; I believe the way in which we do so is not like anything this world has never seen before. Right, wrong or indifferent, the communication is unique to say the least.
In the era of Status updates, retweets and Shares, this generation has found a way to communicate not merely through verbal communication. A form of communication has emerged through us co-signing our agreement or disagreement with a person or point of view through the infamous “Like” button. For those of you who aren’t familiar with what that is, Its works like this. If I were to post a statement via Facebook stating my opinion on a particular subject, underneath that post there is an option for you to click the “like” button. In doing so you have said that you are in agreement with the statement that I wrote. Simple enough right? Wrong! You see now its not as simple as that, now a days for many, its not merely “liking” a status. Its reported that 79% of people trust online reviews and social media opinions more than they do person to person contact. Some have equated “liking” a status to being in total agreement with the person who wrote it , their morals and values as well as with their character. Interesting right? So now there are some individuals who will not “like” a status, post or tweet simply because they believe that other individuals may believe that they are in agreement with something this person may have said or will do in the future. Confusing huh?

If that’s not confusing enough, there are some people who “like” a status even though dislike the status. They are merely “liking” the status to let the person who wrote the status know that they have seen it and disapprove of it, assuming the person who wrote it already knows the way that he/she feels about that situation or update. For example, a couple that just experienced a break up. So the boyfriend goes online and updates his status saying “It feels good to be starting a chapter in life”, innocent enough right? Wrong! So the girlfriend goes and “likes” the status, Not because she “likes” the status but simply to let the boyfriend know that she has seen the status and that she knows he is referring to their situation and she does not “like” that post. Now you can’t tell me that that’s not complicated communication.
Social media has amongst other things empowered the individuals to convey what they genuinely feel without having to verbally speak it. Some individuals ration out their “likes”, so they can’t give all of their likes away because they understand that others will look at the fact that someone “liked” several pictures from one person and from that, those outside individuals will draw certain conclusions about the relationship between the two people.
I’m of the school of thought that if I “like” a picture or post, its simply that. There’s no thought into who the person that posted it believes or their moral system. Maybe I’m alone in that thinking who knows.
The “Like” button has gained so much acclaim and criticism that I don’t even think the creators behind it imagined it would. We didn’t even get into the fact that others will investigate not only your page, but your “likes” as if what you liked gives us a peek into who you are. That may or may not be true, but one thing that is true is, that your ability to endorse or agree with a particular posting weighs way heavier than anybody could have think dreamed or imagine. “Like” it or not, going forward as we interact in this booming social media generation, one word of advice I would offer, for clarity purposes is, to “like” what you “like” regardless of if anyone else “likes” it,but understand that people are always watching because there is a life behind the “likes”.