It’s that time of year again. Without question one of my favorite times of year. Not only is June the month in which my wife and celebrate our wedding anniversary.
It’s the month in which the NBA finals are in full swing. Both my wife and I majorbasketball fans we find ourselves enjoying the NBA finals even as a part of our wedding anniversary.
This year is no different, my wife and I were tuned in as were many others last night as Golden State led by Stephen Curry began to pull away from the Lebron James led Cleveland Cavaliers. Just before the broadcast headed to a commercial break we saw something that made us pause and take another look.
I saw a Christian man minding his own business,doing what he loved and still….
As Stephen Curry was heading to his teams bench the camera pans over enough to see a young woman who “seemed” to be attempting to seduce Stephen Curry in some manner. I am in no way suggesting that this was her actual intent or action. However It was so weird for a number of reasons, the most important of which is that he is married. If for some reason him being married is not enough, Steph Curry has gone on record and spoke publicallyabout his faith and belief in Jesus Christ. So what I immediately saw was a married Christian man, minding his own business, doing what he loved, all while at the same time there was an potential attempt to detour him from his family commitment ,distract him from his career and potentially destroy his character.
That got me to thinking. Maybe you have never played in the NBA or maybe you have never been rich and famous. However, the fact still remains that daily as men we are faced with the same if not similar situations. We live in a society that celebrates sexual sin and in my opinion doesn’t promote a healthy view of family or biblical Christian manhood. The temptation to be promiscuous and have several side relationships is everywhere. Daily the temptation is getting stronger and stronger. Unfortunately society is not set up for biblical marriages or Christian men to be healthy and monogamous.
“Unfortunately This society celebrates sexual sin.”
However, this is nothing new at all. The bible goes in great detail and gives great lessons on how men can be victorious over temptations.
I have compiled what I believe are 4 vital practical keys to help men maintain or obtain biblical character and avoiding falling in to an affair and ultimately in the hands of the enemy.
Let’s call them the 4 C’s to avoid and affair.
1. Consider the consequences: If you always have a healthy consensus on what you have, then it will be more difficult for you to give in to sexual temptation. When the temptation presents itself, pull out your proverbial scale and consider the cost and the consequences of your actions. On one side you have your wife, your kids, the people that look up to you and most importantly God. On the other hand you have the potential for one night with someone that could make you lose everything that you love. It’s not worth it. In business terms it would be the worst deal ever. One night can ruin the rest of your life!
“One night can ruin your life”
2. Confront you Weakness: Fellas, Keep it real, you know what you like. You’ve been attracted to it from as long as you can remember. The issue is that the enemy knows what you like as well. The goal for you is to have a healthy assessment of the areas in your life that “you know” have the potential for you to fall. Most men who have affairs start off thinking that they are stronger than they really are. They say things like “It’s just a conversation or we’re just having lunch together. All the while the enemy is playing on your weakness and he is setting you up for the kill. Know you weak areas and confront them work on them and build them to be stronger.
“Know your weaknessEs, own it and confront it”
3. Cover Your Gates: The number one searched internet sites are porn sites. Nowadays it’s more assessable than ever. It’s on your phones, It’s on your computers,it’s on your televisions and it’s even playing through our radio stations. Men we have to be cautious and careful about what we allow into our eyes and ears. They are gateways to the soul. Job 31:1 says “I made a vow to not look upon a woman lustfully”. I think it’s quite obvious as to why. What we focus on we empower. If you find yourself indulging in pornography or sexually explicit material/songs/tvshows the likelihood of you acting out what you see is majorly increased. Consider what you allow into your gates (eyes and ears). If you’re not careful the flesh will jump in the driver seat. Remember wherever the flesh leads you the flesh will leave you
4. Consistently Pray: Regardless of who you are, us as men must always be in prayer concerning our hearts purity. Guys the enemy is always attempting to distract and destroy the marriage/relationships that we are in. He wants you to be a failure at relationships. He wants to strip you of your character and influence. We must constantly and consistently be in prayer that God would strengthen us in our weak areas. That way, we can be a Godly example of what a faithful, integral, God fearing man looks like.
What do think are some keys to helping men avoid affairs?
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